Say 'hello' to the newest columnist for my local newspaper, The Impartial Reporter.
Ahhhh, how excited am I??!!!! I have to pinch myself that it has finally come to fruition. I am so elated, joyful, excited, and #newcareer. (My grammar has gone out the window!)
I am now writing a monthly column in the newspaper titled, 'My New Normal'. It is about life after loss. It is my story of navigating life, of living with this loss next to me, and about milestones and dates which are generally taken for granted, but are some of the hardest days for the bereaved.
This months' column, my first, focused on the idea of pregnancy being a normal and natural event - an absolute give in. But, what about those pregnancies which do not end as they 'should'? What about those babies who do not 'make it'? And, what about life for those babies and their families after they die? If I feel like no-one talks to me about Patrick, what must Patrick think that no-one talks about him? The poor boy. What about the children?
I write about the children... I think Patrick would have either been this centuries answer to Jonah Lomu, or he would have cured cancer. Yep, strong claims, but true. That is what he would have achieved in life. I can see the headlines now: 'Patrick Maguire - the half kiwi, half Irish player taking the rugby world by storm'. I would have been so proud of him collecting his Nobel Peace Prize for curing cancer. I can see it now...
But, if only it was that easy. If only I could make these dreams a reality. Because the reality is that pregnancy is not a guaranteed success. People are not guaranteed to have babies and start families. This is the side of life which people do not talk about. Until now.
I end the article with: 'appreciate those you have, talk to those who have lost someone, and pray for sun!' We should all do these three things and, if you do get a load of sun, send some over my way!